Wow, this question is so perfectly worded, I can’t think of anything to put in the brackets. Though the best part of the question, to my mind, is the first 5 words: Am I the only one … ?
And the answer is, no, you’re not the only one. In a world of nearly 7 billion people, you’re probably not as bizarre or – what’s the word here – well, you’re not the target market, and you notice that you’re different, and that doesn’t usually make life easy or pleasant. Being lonely is really an awful feeling. This question might free you from feeling so isolated when you don’t fit.
We used to say “you’re one in a million.” A friend once replied, “wow, there are 8 of you in New York City!” Being one in a million makes a person far less of a star – or a freak. In our world, as connected as we are, people can generally find a place where they feel they “fit.” Eric and I joke about how delighted we are when we find that we’re someone’s target audience – like we finally exist to someone who has power for setting trends, creating products, or building communities.
I know that being the target audience isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, but sometimes it’s just nice to know you’re real and that you count. Like the person who posed the question above – real people fart during yoga – as a mom I used yoga to *help* my baby pass gas! You’re supposed to release that particular pressure… but we put pressure to be people who are somehow “above” it all. The more pressure we put on ourselves, the more alone we feel.
So – listen, you are an amazing person. You can keep improving, you can always do “more” – but check in with questions like this one. Are you trying to be something perfect, non-human, or just not you? Let it go. You are real. You were created by love, for love. If you’re wishing to be a target audience, congrats – you’re one in a million! There are 7,000 of you in the world. You are not alone, but you probably are distinctive in ways that can change your community (however you define that). Stop trying to not be real. Real may be the best thing you can be.