There’s no subtle way of sharing a blog post like this, except to say how shocked I am that this is even possible.
I was re-using newspaper to wrap gifts today when I came across this painful, scary headline:
My initial thought was that this had to be in a different country … India, maybe, or Cambodia. Maybe as near as the Philippines. But no,
I am aghast that this is possible, in the very city I live in. Malaysia is generally a place that seems supportive of women. Within the BCCM Church here, over half of the pastors are women. Within Malayisa, women hold elected office and even have a woman at the helm of the military. The radio the other day was explaining a program that has trained over 300 women so far to be high-ranking members of corporations and to sit on Boards of many kinds of large organizations. I have not heard parents hoping for sons over daughters. Malaysia, as a rapidly developing nation, seems to accept the idea of gender equality.
But then there are headlines like this. I don’t use the word “stories” because to some, stories imply the possibility of fiction, of metaphor, of hyperbole (taking metaphors to extremes). Yet, as disappointed as I am to see such a headline, I think it is a sign of hope that this is front-page news, not hidden and not kept from being published. I will share the rest of the article here, so you can draw some of your own conclusions about what this means for a young girl, her protecting aunt, a wife and mother, and possibly a newly shaped family. What I notice in writing that sentence is that one act of a man changes the lives of several women forever. I wonder what healing looks like in situations like these.
From the Daily Express, May 21, 2013.